I understand that you're going to develop crushes. But if you like a guy and want to date him, and he leaves you in the "friend zone," move on. And I mean quickly! You can stay friends with him if you want, but go crush on someone else. If he hasn't realized how amazing and beautiful you are, he is going to remain clueless for a while and you don't need to waste your time. He really is clueless. He isn't different than other guys no matter how many times you say it to yourself. And you can't change him, no matter how hard you try.
There's a common pattern that occurs which keeps girls holding out for guys like this. He'll do or say something really nice, even flirt with you. But then he'll do several things that hurt your feelings or make you cry, like ignore you or flirt with other girls. And then he'll do one nice thing again, and you will let that one thing redeem him of all the wrong he's done. And then he'll do more mean things and one nice thing again. And the pattern will keep repeating itself, and you will have wasted months waiting for this guy to "wake up and find that what he's looking for has been here the whole time."
I know this because I went through it, and most women have. And I'll bet if you ask them about it they'll tell you the same things I did. It wasn't all that long ago and it's not just something that occured "back in my day." It will likely happen to you and I want you to be smart enough to save your breath, your tears, and your emotions for someone else who deserves them. You will have much more fun hanging out with and dating those who want to be with you. I promise.
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I love this! I remember when we talked about this. It's so important for people to realize this. Especially when songs like this come out and girls decide that this is how their lives are going to go. You are fantastic, thanks for the great advice.
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